From: lyger (lyger@attrition.org)
To: double d dee (donna_dee30@hotmail.com)
Cc: security curmudgeon (jericho@attrition.org)
Date: Sat, 10 Mar 2007 20:06:41 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Re: husbands password


On Sat, 10 Mar 2007, double d dee wrote:

": " If you are unable to give me the password will you be able to get me
": " information from his account and e-mail it to me if you can I will give you
": " his address.
": "
": " Donna

Hi Donna,

Got both of your emails.  Sorry to hear that you've been having troubles.
Any more background information about the situation that might allow us to
help you out?

Lyger

From: lyger (lyger@attrition.org)
To: double d dee (donna_dee30@hotmail.com)
Date: Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:37:57 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Re: husbands password


On Sat, 10 Mar 2007, double d dee wrote:

": " he told me it was over and I want to have proof that it is. I know the
": " girls name and where she lives but i don't want him to know that i have
": " information from his account can you get this for me with out him knowing
": " if you can I will send you his e-mail address. I have to know for sure if
": " he has stopped before i can forgive him. I so want to beleive him and get
": " on with our marriage the way it was before.
": "
": " Donna

My honest reaction?  You don't need me or anyone else to get his Hotmail
password.  You need to look him straight in the eyes and ask a very
difficult question, gauge his reaction, and decide whether or not you can
believe his answer and trust him in the future.  If you can't do that,
it's probably time for you to move on.

Not saying you're right or wrong for wanting to know, but it probably
won't ever be "the way it was before".  Send me a size, I probably have a
few of those t-shirts still lying around here somewhere...

Lyger

From: lyger (lyger@attrition.org)
To: double d dee (donna_dee30@hotmail.com)
Date: Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:53:45 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Re: husbands password


On Sat, 10 Mar 2007, double d dee wrote:

": " would you be able to take one look to see if he's still e-mailing her and
": " let me know what you can find and send me a copy that would be all i asak.
": "
": " Donna

Whether I could or couldn't isn't the issue.  Whether or not you can
continue a relationship completely lacking in trust is.  Anything I could
do on your behalf would only exacerbate an already touchy situation.

Really do wish you the best.  With that said, I am newly single... ;)

From: lyger (lyger@attrition.org)
To: double d dee (donna_dee30@hotmail.com)
Date: Sat, 10 Mar 2007 22:15:56 -0500 (EST)
Subject: Re: husbands password


On Sat, 10 Mar 2007, double d dee wrote:

": " so your answer is no i really would like to know i am really trying to pick
": " up the pieces of your marriage and move forward if he's lying i would
": " really love to know before i confront him with it.
": " could you please try for me.
": "
": " Donna

Donna,

I was trying to give some advice into relationships (not that I'm an
authoritative source to any degree), but you do have to know something.
It's understood that you're trying to save whatever is left of the
relationship.  I do respect that.  However, it puts you into a very
difficult position when you solicit someone to commit a felony (yes,
computer hacking is generally a felony these days) because you can't
directly communicate with him about your concerns.

It seems that you feel he hasn't been honest with you, but by contacting
us, you're not being honest either.  You're going to have to follow your
own head and heart on this one.  Seems to me that if you've already gone
this far, you probably already know the answer.

Lyger